Happy Monday, PHAT Girls!
Do you want to know what happens when fat girls (like me) wear bright colors? Well rather you answered yes or no, I am here to tell you. Not only am I going to tell you, I am going to show you too because I want all of my fat girls, body shamers and society to sip this tea. When fat girls (Like me) wear bright colors, we slay the whole damn scenc!
As a young girl, my body begin to change very early. Due to these changes, I was larger in size than many of my female classmates. No, it wasn’t that I was always fat (although I have been fat most of my life), but I had more boobs, hips and butt than most middle school girls and some grown women. My story is not that I was bullied (because I would fight and had no fear of other kids), it is just that I was the butt of many jokes because I was different and other kids didn’t understand.
“If a fat person comes outside wearing all red, what do you say? Hey Koolaid!!
For years, that joke replayed in my head; it kept me from wearing some of my favorite colors, it caused me to restrict myself from certain fashion and It made me uncomfortable. However, over the years I overcame it a begin to understand that I had the right to wear whatever I wanted to wear, however I wanted to wear it and no one had the right to say anything and I they did… I hope they were prepared for my wrath.
Although, I have evolved into a woman who is bold and apologetic, I must admit that this joke came back to haunt me this month. As I put together my looks and prepared to celebrate homecoming at the best HBCU in the land (Albany State University), I couldn’t’ help thinking about that joke. Revisiting that joke was due to the fact that I had decided to have this bright red wrap dress made for me to wear to one of the homecoming parties. Now don’t get it twisted, I know I look damn good in any color and that I have a style that allows me to create slayage no matter what but… I was concerned for at least 2 seconds.
While I snapped back to reality, it led me to this post because there are so many fat girls that need to hear and see the truth. We have the right and the ability to wear whatever we chose; be it bright colors, assorted prints and patterns or different silhouettes. Our size in no way means that we can’t insert our style and be fabulous, fashionable and fat… AT THE SAME DAMN TIME! Fat girls, please know that It is not your place to absorb any of the lies that society has put in place for us, our job is to prove them wrong by slaying every chance we get.
MY STYLE JOURNAL
Red Wrap Dress: Wendy S. Collection (custom made)
Gold Sandal With Ankle Strap (similar): Sam and Libby for Target
Assorted Gold Accessories: PHAT Girl Bouteeque