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I USE TO LOVE HIM By Toni Dugar

October 4, 2015

12074584_10153670574308809_3905016110426870700_nDid you know that October is also Domestic Violence Awareness month? Well it is, and just like breast cancer, domestic violence claims the lives of too many women.  While the number of deaths due to domestic violence are lower then they have been in years, the number of cases are at an all time high.

Last year alone there were 1.4 million cases where women were assaulted by their mates.  So, women are getting their asses beat but not killed……..BASICALLY!!

While strolling down my timeline a couple of days ago, I came across this poem that one of my Facebook friends wrote about her domestic violence experience.  I had to share it with you because  it is so vital that people understand that domestic violence has no face.  You can’t look at a person and tell whether or not they have been victimized.  Many of us wear the mask in an effort to hide our truth.  

Toni Dugar is a mother and a wife.  She lives with and advocates for Lupus.  Toni is passionate, happy, appreciative and true but most of all she survived domestic violence.  Below you will find her truth…..I USE TO LOVE HIMBlack man, 6'6, 270 pounds, my friend turned my lover, turned my abuserI USE TO LO

What is your thoughts about domestic violence? Do you have a story to share? If you would like to connect with Toni click the links below

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  1. Women With Gifts says

    October 25, 2015 at 12:20 am

    Great post! Glad you are using your platform to share info on domestic violence

    • iamphatgirlfresh says

      October 25, 2015 at 2:15 am

      Thank you!!

      • Women With Gifts says

        October 25, 2015 at 2:31 am

        You’re so welcome

  2. Women With Gifts says

    October 25, 2015 at 12:20 am

    Great post! Glad you are using your platform to share info on domestic violence

    • iamphatgirlfresh says

      October 25, 2015 at 2:15 am

      Thank you!!

      • Women With Gifts says

        October 25, 2015 at 2:31 am

        You’re so welcome

  3. MADAMBUTTERFLY says

    November 4, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    I TOO HAVE BEEN A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE…THE “MEN” OR LACK THERE OF FEEL DIFFERENT WHEN YOU TURN THE TABLES ON THEM…RIGHT…OR WRONG YOU STAND…MENTAL CRUELTY IS SO COMMON IN THE UNITED STATES…ESPECIALLY AMONG MEN OF COLOR…BUT EXPOSE THEM…WATCH THEM BEG…AND CRY FOR FORGIVENESS…

  4. MADAMBUTTERFLY says

    November 4, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    I TOO HAVE BEEN A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE…THE “MEN” OR LACK THERE OF FEEL DIFFERENT WHEN YOU TURN THE TABLES ON THEM…RIGHT…OR WRONG YOU STAND…MENTAL CRUELTY IS SO COMMON IN THE UNITED STATES…ESPECIALLY AMONG MEN OF COLOR…BUT EXPOSE THEM…WATCH THEM BEG…AND CRY FOR FORGIVENESS…

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